This week I’ve had a massive confrontation with the difference between the energy of Destruction and the energy of Creation. Without realizing it, and in fact, with all the best intentions, I have spent much of my adult life studying what creates violence, pain and destructive behavior in human beings. This week, I had a deep awareness of how that study has had a paradoxical effect on me in subtle ways I was not aware of until it stopped being subtle.
I’m going to spare you the gory details of what led up to this, and the process that allowed it to unfold. I did engage some deep non-ordinary states of consciousness in order to access the depth of the awareness that I was seeking, and as always, it did exactly what was needed. I got to see how in an effort to understand Destruction, in essence, I was attempting to negotiate with its influence in my life. That is not real. We can’t negotiate or understand Destruction anymore than we can negotiate or understand Creation, at an archetypal level. They just are. They are the power forces of the Universe. The Yin and Yang. But, what we focus on, we become, definitely applies here, and in order to bring healing to others, I spent a great deal of personal energy on the effort of understanding what creates pain, suffering and dis-ease in people. But I see now, that another focus is what is really required.
So it brings me to the energy of Creation, in all of its myriad forms: physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, environmentally, financially, artistically, relationally, communally, and globally. I want to invite you to be serious about what you want to support in the transformation of your life and the world you live in for this coming year. Let’s move it out of the “New Year Resolution” category, which lasts about a week, if that, and instead make a Sacred Contract with yourself to support the Transformation and Creations you want to put your energy into during this next yearly cycle of your life.
What qualities do you want to cultivate in your personal life? Honor, integrity, creativity, humility, grace, boldness, courage, cooperation, open-heartedness, fierceness, boundaries, determination, availability, intimacy, any of these feel like they are calling? Look deeply, without judgement, and recognize the qualities you really enjoy about yourself, and then allow yourself to explore what you would like to cultivate, or experience within yourself. If you can see it, and you hunger for it, just know it already exists inside of you. The presence of those qualities is what is creating the desire for it to come into more fullness of manifestation, or you wouldn’t even see it or desire it at all. So your Creation already exists, and is just waiting to be uncovered so you can experience that aspect of yourself and move into it as an integrated, conscious way of experiencing the fullness of yourself.
Within your outer world relationships, how would you like to create transformation in them? Would you like more laughter, intimacy, availability, honesty, openness, presence, spirit, fun? Again, allow your hunger to guide you in choosing to create these qualities by being the qualities you want to experience.
In your work, would you like to create more satisfaction, abundance, ease, fulfillment? See where your work is feeding you and where you are feeding it. Notice any way you are not bringing your best to your work, not really engaging your deepest skill. It doesn’t matter what the reasoning for that is, just notice, and see what happens if you begin to shift that approach, so your work becomes more mutually satisfying. By giving your best to yourself and any of the work you do, notice what changes that creates for your Livelihood, does it bring you into deeper relationship with your Right Livelihood, as the Buddhists refer to our work in the world?
We can keep expanding our Creation energy out to every aspect of our lives: our environment, inside our home, as well as outside; our neighborhood, our community, our world. Anywhere where dissatisfaction lives within us, Creation is trying to happen, something new is wanting to give birth to itself within us, so we can be the vehicle for that energy in the world. Don’t limit yourself. Be available to the biggest dreams your life wants to Create. And remember: You wouldn’t be seeing them if they didn’t want to happen to you and through you. You don’t have to figure out how it is going to happen, you just need to keep saying “YES” to the energy of Creation that is calling out to you. Just keep taking the next step, and don’t worry how the step 20 paces away are going to happen. Just one step at a time, stay present with each moment of your life, that is how Creation guides you.
Allow your preparation for this new year to be a time of deep awareness into the aspects of your life that point out your frustrations and dissatisfactions. Trust them. They are pointing you to the areas that are asking for the consciousness of Creation to be able to take root and bloom themselves into your new life. Those visions are your Spirit talking to you. Listen, write them down, take yourself serious and become the Co-Creator of your life, make it all it can be, all it wants to be at this point in time. Get support for the places that are too sticky to get past on your own. Experience gratitude for all that is and that continues to unfold itself in every moment. Gratitude is what helps us to see how our creations are taking hold, and becoming the new ground for the transformation of our lives.
Happy Winter Solstice.
Be Love. Be Smooth.