This is such a powerful, deep and difficult discussion. When we do not listen to, and then repress, the wisdom of our anger, which is giving us information that something in our life is not alright, depression results. And Depression is a guidance system that tells us we are not paying attention to our emotional body, and that could be from one of many sources. We may be ignoring sadness, grief, longing, despair, frustration, loneliness, or any other variety of emotions. But if Anger is serving as the secondary emotion of protection and we don’t learn how to go deeper, Depression will result.
The challenge is how to not make Depression wrong, but rather to recognize it as a navigation system back to ourselves. Depression shows you what needs to happen. It makes you stop. It makes you question. It makes you see everything differently, often darkly, but there may be some truth in that darkness that is trying to guide you. The key is to go deeper than the symptoms, literally ask the Depression what are the feelings that it wants you to know about, and then be available for what arises. It may be that there are many layers of feelings, present or past that have been waiting for your attention, that are part of the Depression. All of them are valid, and need to have your compassionate awareness turned towards them.
The key to working with the emotional body is always the same. It is necessary to bring your undivided, compassionate attention to the feelings that are arising, and then go deeper into each feeling, delving deep to find the wisdom and guidance contained within each. Emotions carry Intelligence, and we have to learn how to access that Intelligence in order to allow our lives to Transform into a new level of Consciousness, and subsequently a new quality of Life.
Be Love. Be Smooth.
Integrity and Honor are words we don’t hear enough of in our personal dialogues, and especially in our collective and political realms. And all too often, those using the words are doing just that, using them, not practicing them. This talk is about the Shaman, Healer and Teacher Don Miguel Ruiz, and the powerfully small book he wrote called “The Four Agreements”. They are simple, but powerful recognitions of the ways we keep ourselves out of honor and integrity with ourself and with our world, and what we can do to change that into a different reality.
We are the Co-Creators of our lives. What do we want to create? What are the qualities that are most important? Perhaps the 4 Agreements will help you to discover that, so you can move your life into a deeper experience of empowerment and transformation. And as we know, Consciousness is contagious. Be a Being of Honor, a warrior of Integrity, a peacekeeper of Light, and a staff for the Transformation into Higher Consciousness that is birthing itself into Being in every moment.
Be Love. Be Smooth.
It has been fascinating to see how large a response this radio show received. It really shows me how confused so many people are about how to be with this very powerful emotion, in a way that is healthy and constructive. It really lays the foundation for a future episode on Fear, because when we don’t know how to use our anger to protect us, then Fear, the emotion of Survival has to come in for back up.
But how to respond, rather than react to Anger? That seems to be the biggest question bothering people. We are so used to feeling our anger, and either stuffing it, or reacting to it, there doesn’t seem to be an in–between, and there is. The key here is to do two things: First, notice where you feel it in your body, and what it feels like, then, most importantly, acknowledge it, name it. You may say something like “I’m noticing some anger in my body”. You don’t need to understand in that moment or what it is about, just recognize and name the emotion. If you can stay with that recognition, the anger will eventually show you what it wants you to see, how you need to take care of yourself, or what is not working. What you don’t want to do is say “YOU” are making me angry, when you don’t even know what the anger is about. Own the emotion as your own, and after you delve into it more deeply than you can have a discussion about what didn’t work for you. Taking the blame and criticism (towards others) out of our anger is the first step to being able to work with it in a less destructive way. Our emotions belong to us. No one else MAKES us feel anything. We feel because it is how our Innate Intelligence is communicating with us, giving us information. It’s not about anyone else. If you remember nothing else, this is key.
By getting into a habit of simply naming your emotion, it will allow you to begin to recognize it’s presence in your system, and move you out of being so reactive to it. Then it stops being so frightening, and it stops blocking your access to other feelings as well. The more you can recognize what you are feeling, and allow the wisdom of the emotions to guide you, the more you get to trust your capacity to be empowered with your life.
Be Love. Be Smooth.